In a few days, my Husband will be away at a work-related conference and we'll be apart. This part of his job is not fun for me, although it's a great, prestigious thing for him, of course; and I am thoroughly supportive of him. My Husband really is awesome at what he does. :) However, it's always hard to be apart. Compile on top of that the fact that we have house guests currently, and as soon as they leave, so does my husband. I'm actually going to visit my family while he's gone, and then we're coming back to where my Husband and I live. This will be pleasant to have my parents visit for a week... I've missed them terribly (I'm a big "daddy's girl!" :):) Anyhow, it makes "alone time" with my Husband almost non-existent for the next two weeks.
Beyond the *obvious* dilemma with the lack of alone time *grin*, it also means that we also won't have any time for our regular disciplinary routines. Maybe that's a good thing, and an opportunity to really practice the virtue of obedience, but when I don't get a daily spanking-- or at *least* a daily few swats on the tush, I start to get more lax. And when I'm around my mother... let's just say I either end up earning a spanking or need a stress-relief one! ;-)
My Husband, mindful of our brief separation, and subsequent lack of privacy, set up a nifty little weekly system. So of course, I am going to stick to that, and I do truly desire to be good, no matter what. I'm mindful of a great quote from "The Nun's Story": "At the end of the day... you can cheat [others] and yourself, but you can never cheat God."
So to others who life this lifestyle... here's a question for feedback: If you are the Head of Household, what do you do to help keep your little woman at home mindful of your presence when you are gone? To the women, is there anything special that you do to remind yourself of, or to practice submission, to your HOH when you're apart?
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sue
29/3/2009 08:58:15 pm
What works to help me feel more connected is ritual. Corner meditation time on a particularly challenging behavior helps focus me. It is quiet and can be quite humbling. A reminder of your obedience and submission to your husband and ultimately God can be a piece of jewelry that is meaningful to you both. I know that you are serious about your commitment to this lifestyle and you will be just fine. You may make a slip here or there that is only human but as long as you stay focused upon your ultimate goal, a happy home and healthy relationship it will all turn out OK in the end. -
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Ted
29/3/2009 11:47:29 pm
hi there
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Traditional Wife
30/3/2009 03:31:33 am
Sue-- Thank you very much for the suggestions! Those are excellent, and my husband shall consider what you have said. :)
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mason
30/3/2009 06:54:00 am
did that say LITTLE WOMAN?
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Traditional Wife
30/3/2009 07:24:43 am
Tricia -- Thank you so much. Indeed, I am a very lucky wife to be blessed with a wonderful, Traditional Marriage. My Husband is the love of my life. I am very blessed, also, that he is both my best friend and my Lord and Master. (Although I don\'t generally call him this to his face. :))
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Traditional Wife
30/3/2009 07:34:34 am
Mason-- First of all, I am so sorry that you find any hint of femininity repugnant.
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Ted
30/3/2009 09:20:08 am
hi Traditional Wife
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Traditional Wife
30/3/2009 10:17:35 am
Ted -- Sir, I wanted to wear jeans whilst around my family during the Thanksgiving holiday vacation. On Thanksgiving, itself, I wore a skirt. :) However, my parents and some friends have made fun of me in the past for not wearing jeans, and so I wanted to "fit in" for the rest of the time spent with my loved ones. This was poor judgment on my part.
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Ted
30/3/2009 03:02:41 pm
Traditional Wife
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Janet
2/4/2009 10:45:03 am
Wow I don't think I could handle the level of intensity you have with your husband. As long as it makes you happy and you are not being beaten down mentally then I think it's fine. The idea of using a whip sent a chill through me. I have several friends that are into bdsm and I don't understand it but I don't judge it as long as it's 2 consenting adults and one is not 20 while the man is 50.
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Hello.....
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Ted
5/4/2009 03:54:14 pm
Cory,
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Liane
6/4/2009 10:34:49 pm
Getting back to the subject (smile) ... My husband travels a lot for work. Wish he didn't but that's the way it is. I don't miss not having him there to check up on me per se, but I do miss HIM. We make a point of speaking on the phone as often as we can. And one really good thing, he did once and has since become a ritual every time he goes away. Just before he leaves he gives me a special instruction - something to concentrate on while he was away. Last time it was simple and welcome. As I took him to the airport gate he gave me a time to call him when he would have arrived in his hotel, to be in bed, relaxed, in my hottest nightie when I called... It wasn't difficult to be in bed when I called as it was middle of my night my time ... felt warm all through the day, and happy to go to bed even without him, setting my alarm.
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Traditional Wife
10/4/2009 06:49:19 am
Janet-- Thank you for taking the time to leave your kind comment. :) I am so glad that you and your HOH have found what works for the two of you and are enjoying the fruits thereof. Likewise, my Husband and I have done the same, and continue to do so. It is a process, and certainly not a cookie-cutter mold for all couples. I have to say that I am honestly a very happy woman and that I am more fulfilled now, at this point of my life, than I have ever been before. That is due in large part to the leadership, teaching, and correction of my beloved. Our Traditional Marriage allows us to both grow and to become the people we truly are, and I believe that we were meant to be. :) As I was the one who brought up DD initially to my Husband, believe me, it is exactly what I have always dreamt of. :)
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Traditional Wife
10/4/2009 06:54:33 am
Dear Cory,
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Cory
12/4/2009 03:54:30 am
Hello Traditional Wife, and Ted Sir,
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Cory
12/4/2009 04:05:25 am
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Traditional Wife
12/4/2009 04:19:31 am
That is such a beautiful story, Cory! Thank you for sharing! I am so sorry that you resented it at first, but I'm glad that the skirt/dress issue is something that you adopted for your own self and not just something you do because you have to. Sure, obeying for the sake of obeying if sufficient, but how much more pleasant and wonderful it is when the will of our Husband becomes our desire, as well. :)
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David Que
29/9/2009 02:05:26 am
I just discovered your blog so I apologize for the tardiness of my comment.
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Christina
11/12/2009 03:32:00 am
I would love to have a loving but strict and firm husband. I would like him to 'make' me wear only skirts and dresses. And I would like to only ever wear trousers/pants only when absolutely necessary and then only with his permission.
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Traditional Wife
13/12/2009 03:03:04 pm
Christina,
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Richard
23/2/2010 04:36:05 am
As fair as I'm concerned, women should lead their lives in full submission and discipline. No voting, no positions of power. They should be treated well and should never be abused or hurt. But, they should remain wives, daughters, mothers with male guardians who will keep them in line. And yes absolutely skirts and dresses only and only very feminine ones. Husband should rule their wives 100% and require them to be submissive and wear feminine clothes at ALL times.
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Louise
1/8/2010 09:49:22 pm
I have been married for about 2 years. I am a submissive wife and will detail below the way I live with my husband.
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