...The hardest word in the English language for me to verbalise or to write out. Three little letters wouldn't seem to cause such a conundrum, but they certainly do when they take a direct hit on pride. Yet, I make myself say the words (even if I am gritting my teeth), firstly, because my Husband requires it said at times, in response to a direction question or command. Secondly, and perhaps more encompassing, because I believe in it a great deal. While it is true that I may blush whilst saying it to either my Husband or to another gentleman, it is both a good reminder of propriety (e.g., respectfulness towards men) while also affecting one's soul into humility. To say the word "Sir" places that person above yourself, at least in position of honour if not in actual, direct authority.
The phrase, "Yes, Sir" acknowledges a gentleman's question, opinion, or command. As such, the customary reply towards the first condition indicates either an acknowledgment of the question or a respectful statement of affirmation. In the second condition, it is much the same, and it must be said that even if one does not completely agree with the opinion being expressed, that gentleman's views are still being honoured and given respectful consideration. As for the latter case, the phrase "Yes, Sir" is the most acceptable response to a direct command. It places your ascent with the order that is being given and indicates (or brings about) some sort of level of submission to the person issuing it.
If all of these things are true, and noble, and beautiful-- and if I firmly believe that they are-- why is it still so hard to say? And does it ever get easier? If not--or until such a time as it does become easier--I hope that the struggle makes it more efficacious! :) Why is the spirit willing, but the flesh still so weak? *sigh*
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Cory
16/4/2009 09:19:01 am
Hi Traditional Wife..
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Carol
17/4/2009 04:56:38 pm
Hello Traditional Wife, I just wanted to say I am totally fascinated by your lifestyle, I am not in a marriage where dd is practised, this doesn't mean I don't agree. I wondered if your husband allows you to wear makeup, are allowed to choose the clothing that you buy? Does your husband order for you at a restaurant? Is your day mapped out for you, or do you more or less please yourself in your day to day life? Kind Regards Carol
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18/4/2009 03:13:57 am
Cory,
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18/4/2009 03:38:47 am
Carol,
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Wanda
20/5/2009 05:45:38 am
Good afternoon Traditional Wife - I too am very fascinated with this lifestyle but not living it but very desperately wanting to. Not sure how to approach my husband as we are not living a tradional marriage and I really want to. He is very laid back and I don't have rules or much guidance from him. I have my payck and he has his and he gives me money for bills, I have a checkbook and actually write out the bills. Our household is truly not how I want it to be. He leaves much control to me and I don't want it. I wish he would lead more and maybe he doesn't because of me but I truly want to be submissive and allow him to lead. Do you have any suggestions as to how I could approach my husband about this? I am very shy, sometimes he has to pull stuff out of me. We are very far from a traditional marriage. He is not religous now but was raised in a religous family and knows much more about the bible than I but he doesn't necessarily practice what he has learned and doesn't always share it. If I go to church, I go alone or with my kids. There is much chaos and stress in my home and sometimes I think if we could get on the same page and he would control more and lead more things wouldn't be so chaotic and unorganized. I am not sure how to ask for this without hurting his feelings or feeling like he thinks I'm weird for wanting to be in a traditional marriage and wanting to be held accountable and under his authority and submitting to corporal punishment. Many women I know would think I AM CRAZY as they definitely have control of their households and are bossy and the ways of the world has definitely affected them and me and maybe that is why I am in the situation I am in this moment. I'm very sad and depressed at how things are going and I do not know how to approach this as I said without hurting my husband or making him feel inadequate or making him think I'm weird or sick for wanting this when all of our friends and family for that matter live far more different than a traditional marriage. I've wanted this for a long time. I've even thought of divorce because of the unorganization and chaos, arguments and so on. I feel that if we had this there would be much more peace and harmony in our home, between us and our kids. I'm very upset today and lonely. I feel alone. I do not know if he would take this seriously and apply it to our life and be persistent. I desperately desire a relationship where I'm honored and taken care of emotionally and protected but lead and guided from what is evil by my husband. Do you have any suggestions of how I may introduce this to my husband? Thank you for any and all advice. I like your site and have enjoyed reading your journal and prayers. Thank you.
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